Because Of You...

Dear Mom,

I am thinking of you today. I am thinking about all that you taught me by your example.

Because of you, I learned what selflessness looks like. I remember our landlords in the house we rented during most of my growing up years. I remember she was an older woman and quite a character. She would call, late at night, and it was clear she had been drinking. You would go next-door, even though I'm you sure didn't want to, and listen to her rants, dry her tears, and help her to bed. You always showed her compassion. Then in the daylight, you graciously acted as if nothing had happened. You restored her dignity with your love. You taught me that love covers.

Because of you, I learned that all people have value. I remember when I was an adolescent, and my brother had an African American lady-friend who was very ill. You (of course) had him bring her to our house, where you could care for her. You bathed her fevered head with cool washcloths, and you nursed her back to health. I never wondered why, for I knew that was just what a Mom does. Thanks, Mom...for showing me that love doesn't see color, it sees humanity. You taught me the beauty of serving.

Because of you, I learned the art of listening. You would listen for hours to anyone in need...on the phone, or in person. You always listened without judgment...sharing a word of wisdom when it was needed. Thanks, Mom...for never turning me away, or making me feel like what I had to share wasn't important. You taught me that love listens...love hears.

Because of you, I acquired the ability to think about how other people might be feeling, and what they might be going through. You always pointed out to me what difficulties could be contributing to their behavior. You taught me to try and see from another perspective. You taught me compassion. Thanks, Mom...there isn't enough compassion in this world. I am glad I was given this gift.

Because of you, I have always known that I am delightful...just for being "me". I realize now what a treasure your unconditional love was and is in my life. I have met countless adults who have had to work through trying to earn love, from their spouses, and ultimately from God. I don't struggle with this, having been taught from my earliest memories that I am deserving of love just because I am. This knowledge has carried me through life without the burden of attempting to be pleasing by my behavior, and it has ultimately allowed me to receive the glorious gift of God's grace without question. Thanks, Mom...for giving me the gift of self.

Because of you, I learned that God is real. We didn't attend church, and part of me is even thankful for that as well. I know so many people who were raised with religion, and the law, and have had to spend years relearning the truth of who God really is. You always talked about God as if He was your friend. You reminded me of His goodness, when you would reassure me that things had a way of turning out good...no matter how painful they might seem. You encouraged me to pray, and to be thankful. Thanks, Mom...for the gift of knowing.

Because of you, I have never doubted God's existence. Because of you, I have always known that I am delightful to Him. Because of you, I have eyes to see the hurting and downtrodden. Because of you, I don't fear those who look different than me. Because of you, I am able to give of myself, and be a good listener, and love with abandon...and partly because of you, I am me.

I can't believe it's been almost 16 years since you passed on to glory.
Because of you, I've always known what a good Mom looks like...and a Mom is what I always wanted to be.

I love you, Mom. Happy Mother's Day!